Some parents hardly have time to enjoy their children due to the daily rush, worries, work, domestic responsibilities… Tasks pile up and sometimes leave very little space to talk with the children and spend time quality with them. However, children need emotional closeness from their parents, so you want to make sure your child knows that you love them and that they are important to you.
Although there are many ways to express love, sometimes it’s important to put it into words. In fact, it would be a good idea not to let a day go by without telling your son how much you love him. Messages of love never fall on deaf ears, but are small bricks with which children build their self-esteem and self-confidence for the future.
We must not forget that what the child thinks of himself, will depend to a large extent on the messages that his parents transmit to him. The information and the assessment they receive of their actions are essential for them to build their self-image. Therefore, their development is closely in tune with the gestures of affection, dedication and comments that the parents dedicate to it every day.
Make sure your child knows how much you love him/her
1. “You are very special”
It is very important that the child understands that he is unique, different and special. This way he will not only feel more loved and appreciated but also more secure and confident. It is a great way to let him know that although he has flaws and can make mistakes, he also has wonderful qualities that distinguish him from the rest.
2. “I love you so much”
Through their actions, parents show their children that they love them every day. However, expressing that affection in words never hurts. There are difficult days, days when you may have lost patience and you have scolded your son, these words will serve to tell him that, no matter what happens, you will never stop loving him. Remember that unconditional acceptance is the foundation for good self-esteem.
3 . “You make me happy”
Children are a huge source of satisfaction and happiness; therefore, do not wait for a special occasion, tell him every day how lucky you are to have him. In this way you will be telling him that he is very important to you, that he is a source of happiness and pride. Remember that when children see their parents worried, they may feel guilty. Let him know it isn’t.
4. “I trust you”
The pillars of self-confidence and self-efficacy are built in early childhood. If you trust your child, he will trust his abilities and become a self-confident adult. Remember that children are easily frustrated and quickly disappointed when they do not achieve the expected results. Therefore, it is important that you nurture his self-confidence every day. The child must know that you trust his abilities and his will to move forward, despite the mistakes.
5. “I like it when…”
This is not about flattering to flatter, but about pointing out the positive aspects of the child, those that we like the most and that we would like to promote. In fact, parents often make the mistake of focusing more on punishing negative behaviors than praising positive behaviors. Therefore, it is convenient that you always focus on the positive qualities of the child, and that you make them notice. This way, not only will he know exactly what you expect of him, but he’ll also develop a more positive self-image.