A positive attitude is the best gift you can give your children every day. When you praise a child, when you show him affection, when you tell him that everything will be fine, that he is capable of achieving it and you help him… all this will create a positive character in the child. Children are obliged to test their limits, It’s human nature after all. But sometimes, the way you set limits and set them for yourself is very important.
One way to have a positive attitude is to work on positive discipline and so both parents and children can feel good, they can be happy and relaxed. Positive discipline will help you strengthen your bond, so that you feel much more united with each other. But, how is it possible to have a positive attitude with life so stressful that we have today? Responsibilities absorb us, but we must decide to live in the present to be able to enjoy the moment and that our children can also, feel close.
Have clear expectations
Positive discipline begins with clear, concise expectations and positive behaviors from parents in order to model appropriate behavior in children. You need to communicate your behavioral expectations for your children, only in this way will they learn what they should learn in life.
For example, when entering a store, give them information your son and be a good example. You can say something like, ‘We’re going to the store and we’ll only buy things on our list. You can read the list but we are not going to buy candy or food that is not on the list’.This will be a clear and concise message about what to expect from the situation at the grocery store. Positive orientation will always lead to positive behavior.
Focus on the positives
Part of positive discipline is rewarding good behavior I lie. By focusing on the positive, the child will learn what is necessary to get the attention she seeks from her parents. One way to achieve this motivation is to use positive discipline tools such as behavior charts or rewards to encourage positive behavior.
When a child puts effort into their positive behaviors and is praised for it, they will reduce negative behaviors as a result. A chart is a visual tool a child can use to work toward a reward.
For example, you can use a label to place in a box each day of the week as long as they have a positive behavior during the day. At the end of the week, a small toy can be a nice reward in the box. The child may receive praise but he may also have some material reward for his effort. But think for a moment, would you go to work in the morning if you were not paid in money?
It is inevitable that a child will misbehave at some point, even when positive discipline is applied. One positive technique to try is redirection of negative behaviors. Redirection is helpful in moving a child from one behavior to another, without having to throw a tantrum.
For example, if your child is playing with an object that they’re not supposed to touch, you can redirect them by saying something like, ‘John, let’s put that in the drawer and then we’ll play with your cars for a bit.’ This gives the child a chance to stop her negative behavior and move on to something positive and fun. This technique is based on the drama of the discipline. A child has a short attention span and the chances are very high that he will redirect his attention to something he likes more.
Keep good communication
You need to maintain good lines of communication with your child. Your children should feel that you are in this world by and for them, no matter what they are doing. A child is likely to listen and respect the rules and if you talk to your children with a positive tone, you will be able to eliminate the negativity of the environment . Traditional discipline is a waste of time and energy.