You only have to look back to remember a teacher who marked your education when you went to school. Not all teachers are the same , but what is certain is that they mark the lives of their students, as long as they work to maintain a good relationship with them. Being a teacher is a vocation and it is not just going to work and earning money, being a teacher is being a guide that can always remain in the hearts of the students.
It’s not a relationship like the others
The relationship established between a teacher and his students is different from any other relationship in the lives of students. It has nothing to do with other relationships that can be had in life such as parental or friends. The pedagogical relationship can be really special because it is part of good learning. Books to familiarize children with mythology.
Moreover, if a student feels good with his teacher, he is more likely to take better advantage of the classes and make an effort to learn. It is necessary to know that a pedagogical relationship is not only that the teacher teaches and the student learns, there is much more. Personality, way of being, attitude, body language… everything counts.
Students do not relate to all teachers in the same way, since they may feel more affinity with some than with others. This is normal. They can generate closer ties, have respect or even have no affinity with others and do not get along. They are human relationships and therefore, all this is normal.
Factors that create a positive bond between teachers and students
But of course, what makes the difference in the relationship with the teachers? What can make there be more affinity with some than with others? What are the factors that influence a teacher to have a positive relationship with her students? That is what you will discover next.
Body language says a lot about us, even if we don’t speak. The body communicates and a teacher can say with his body that he does not want to be in that class (trying to leave the classroom all the time with excuses), that he does not want closeness with the students (marking constant physical distance). His body language will be able to indicate whether or not he wants to interact with the students. Body language speaks louder than words… and students notice that.
When there is no eye contact with students, teachers make it clear that they do not care about the people in front of them. They want to do their work and go home, no matter what beyond the textbooks. But each student has a different history and characteristics. For this reason, good eye contact and an attentive look towards each and every one of the students can make a big difference in the relationship.
This will make the teacher begin to understand the needs of each one of them, to follow up on them and the students feel important every time they are by their side. When teachers look “nowhere” just so their students don’t bother them unnecessarily, they won’t bond with them.
As in any interpersonal relationship, good communication is essential for there to be a strong bond between people. In addition, it is through communication that a good pedagogical relationship is established. It is not always what is said, but rather how things are said. The tone, the way of saying the words… is what will make the difference. Respect is always fundamental, as well as conveying trust.
empathy and assertiveness
Empathy and assertiveness go hand in hand when it comes to having good relationships between people, and in the pedagogical relationship it is no less so. They are essential for students to feel accompanied at all times, to feel that closeness that is so important in interpersonal relationships. Feeling understood will make them improve their academic results.
When students are lucky enough to find a teacher who leaves a mark on their lives, they will know that learning is much more than just learning concepts. It consists of forming ourselves as people, knowing who we are, knowing who we want to be in the future and, above all, remembering that this teacher was important to us because he was capable of being a guide, a teacher and a friend at school.
A friend who has nothing to do with friendships like those with peers, since he is a figure of authority and respect. But it is a type of pedagogical friendship that teaches us that we are capable of achieving things with tenacity, will and perseverance. His words of encouragement can resonate in our heads for a lifetime.