Adolescents come into stressful situations that can often cause them to develop a pessimistic attitude. Between schoolwork, extracurricular activities, social pressures… your teen may start to feel negative. So boosting his self-esteem and encouraging him to see life in a more positive way can help your child have a better outlook on life.
Don’t underestimate the power of a positive attitude, and is that optimism can help children, adolescents and adults to be happier, to grow up healthier, more successful and even protect against depression. Knowing this, you may want to do everything in your power to help your child lose the negativity and have a positive attitude towards things that happen in life.
Be a good example
To build a positive attitude in your children, the first thing you should do is curb your own negativity, even when your children are not around. Getting into the habit of looking on the bright side of life and having an optimistic outlook could rub off on your child. Focus on the positives that occur during the day instead of just focusing on the negatives.
Identify the situations
It is important that you identify the situations that they make your child have a negative perspective. For example, find out if she’s having a hard time in class or with his best friend. Perhaps something has happened that has affected him at home but that you have downplayed. When you can identify the source of the negativity, then you can better help your teen find solutions to problems.
Analyze the situation
It’s It is important that once the source of the negativity has been identified, you discuss it with your child to work on specific life issues. If your child is at risk of failing one or more subjects, investigate why this is happening and what is what you should do to improve your performance without neglecting your emotional health. For example, you can work on their study habits, communicate with their teachers to ask for help, work with a private teacher, seek psychopedagogical help, etc.
Compliment your child
Compliment your child with specific praise and honesty. He will know if you are not sincere so I advise you to only congratulate him icites if it really is real. For example, you can say something like: ‘I’m so proud of you for calling me to pick you up when your friends started drinking. I know that your friends are very important to you, but your safety is the priority.
Practice positive conversation
Practicing positive conversation with your teens is very important. Help your children train their brain to be able to think positively and put aside negative thoughts. For example, if your child has a test coming up and they’re afraid they won’t pass it, you can discourage negative thinking. Instead of him thinking things like: ‘I’m going to fail because I’m so bad at math’, you can help him think things like: ‘I can pass this test if I spend enough time and will to study’.
Talents and interests
It is important that you encourage your child to find and develop their talents and interests, as this will help them build their self-esteem. Therefore, it is a good idea that you keep your child’s interests and that you help him discover his talents. For example, if he chooses to do drama or join a sports team (or both) you can accept his interests and help him achieve them. Avoid saying things that detract from him and give him comments that encourage him and motivate him to improve.