If you are a father or mother of young children, you will know very well what a tantrum is. It is also likely that you have felt helpless for not knowing how to stop it, especially when it occurs at the least appropriate times or situations. When a tantrum occurs, it is because the child feels an intense emotion that is difficult to control: anger. To be able to control anger requires self-control, and if adults have a hard time, imagine children! That is why the little ones in the house are often prone to having tantrums…

From 5 years

There are several popular techniques among parents to understand anger, rage and thus calm tantrums in the shortest possible time. The box of anger and the bottle of calm by Maria Montessori are two of these techniques and they are very good… But they cannot always be used, especially if we are in a public place. That is to say, they work well if you are at home or in a controlled place, but in the middle of the street… things change.

The techniques mentioned above are great for children of any age, but the one we bring you below is designed above all for children over 5 years old and who have good reasoning skills.

The technique is simple and you only have to remember it at key moments to prevent a little anger or frustration from turning into a dreaded endless tantrum… Pay attention to the next section!

The techniques mentioned above are great for children of any age, but the one we bring you below is designed above all for children over 5 years old and who have good reasoning skills.

The technique is simple and you only have to remember it at key moments to prevent a little anger or frustration from turning into a dreaded endless tantrum… Pay attention to the next section!

Is this a big, medium or small problem?

The question will shock them and they will begin to think and measure the importance that this problem really has for them. The most intense children will surely say that any problem that affects them is big, huge! But in these cases, you will have to help them see things in perspective and realize that, if they do their part, there may be a solution that will help them feel better.

But, depending on the answers we can take into account the following:

• Small problem. It will be easy for him to understand that the solution will be achieved with simple actions. For example, if he has gotten angry because those shoes that you want to wear hurt him, he just has to go to the closet and find more comfortable ones to wear.
• Medium problem. In the case of this type of problem, you will have to make him see that it is a problem that can be solved. For example, if a T-shirt that you like a lot has been stained and you can no longer wear it to go outside, you just have to find another garment that you like to wear at that moment and wash the other one so that you can put it on. the next day.
• Big problem. When your son / daughter thinks that it is a big problem, then you have to understand and understand his emotions. Do not minimize his point of view so that he understands that you are understanding his emotions and that although there are things that cannot be changed, or at least not immediately… solutions can be found to feel better. You will have to be his guide in this so that he learns to do it himself.

Over time, your child will learn to ask himself this question and will be able to classify the degree of a problem, something that will certainly deserve your praise. It is a tool that will serve them for a lifetime. Growing up, they will be able to see the size of a problem because of its objectivity and not just because of how it makes them feel at any given moment.