Emotions are only enjoyed if they are known and if they can be interpreted. There are no positive or negative emotions, but there are useful or harmful emotions. Harmful emotions -which are also labeled as negative-, are those that make us feel bad because we do not know how to recognize or handle them, such as anger, anger… Useful emotions -which are also labeled as positive- are those that make us feel good and full of joy.

Parents need to be emotionally intelligent and able to teach children children to enjoy their emotions as long as they are able to teach them to notice their emotions when they are overexcited.Today I want to talk to you about how to help you with a few tips.

Become aware of your children’s feelings

You can’t teach your children to recognize their feelings if you don’t do it first, you must recognize your children’s feelings. This seems simple, but it is not. As adults, we are sometimes not aware of our own feelings, therefore, it cannot be so easy to be aware of our children’s feelings. We must be able to tune in to our children’s feelings and receive their experience without any judgment.

There are always times for teaching

It is possible that at some point you find that your children’s feelings are uncomfortable, that you feel angry or that they are not good for you. he. But when you have these kinds of thoughts, you need to stop in your tracks and imagine how your child must feel.Your children need an ally, they need you.When you stand by your child ‘in the middle of a storm’ will know you’re a good emotional supporter.

Children don’t have to face problems on their own without support. As parents, we have an obligation to guide them through this process. Our children’s intense emotions are great opportunities to engage with them and teach them problem-solving skills, rather than teaching irrational authority.

The magic of empathy

Listen with empathy to our children is the core of teaching. There are many ways to listen, you may hear screaming or defiant silence, you may see a child crying or screaming in confusion. The feelings in moments of tension are on the surface, but in any case, parents should not have the feeling of struggle and see it as an opportunity to recognize the experience and reflect what we see, we hear and feel towards the desired direction. We cannot rob him of the opportunity to learn about himself, we are the ones in charge of achieving it.

The role of parents is to empathize, to be generous with time and to allow understanding and describe your feelings. We must not tell him how he feels, we must make him aware of his feelings, perceiving and acknowledging his emotions.

Name the emotions

It is very important to remember that a child with A tantrum will not stop to think about their emotions, therefore, it is necessary to wait for moments of calm to be able to talk about what happened, always accompanying them throughout the process. As parents, we must help our children to feel oriented and to know exactly how they feel by naming their emotions as they feel them. Our children need to feel supported and listened to at all times.

Defining feelings helps children calm down and understand what is happening to them. You will be able to recover quickly and increase your resilience. He will be able -with the help of the adult- to find solutions to the possible conflicts that he is experiencing and that cause him to have these emotional problems, taking into account the limits. Children will learn to recognize their emotions as a normal part of expressing themselves and communicating with others.