Parenting styles have a huge impact on how children become adults, and have important implications for their future success. It is known that children are influenced by the attitude of their parents, either positively or negatively. Parenting style is vital because it predicts children’s performance in the field of psychosocial development, entrepreneurial development, academic performance, social competence and problem behavior.
Parents work hard to raise children to be successful in life, but it’s important to be aware of any parenting behavior that may prevent children from reaching their full potential. Therefore, it is necessary to know what behaviors of yours can prevent your children from being successful in the future.
It is important that as a parent, you help your children learn how to bounce back from life’s setbacks, minor or major, because they are an inevitable part of existence.
In this article, we present 8 unintentional parental behaviors that can prevent children from fully developing , and be prosperous adults. Parents mean well but make mistakes, just like everyone else. Be kind to yourself if you make a mistake, but use it as a learning opportunity. Next we are going to see some behaviors of parents that prevent their children from being successful in life.
Parental behaviors that prevent success in children
Many people can remember behaviors of their own parents who did not help them to be a successful adult. You may think that a different childhood would have changed everything, and that’s why you don’t want to have these behaviors so that your children don’t go through the same thing as you. Now is your chance to reflect on this.
Do not allow your children to experience risks
We live in a world that does not warn us of the danger that lies in it. Concern about keeping our children always safe is our biggest fear, so we do everything we can to protect them.
It is our job after all , but don’t isolate them from healthy risk-taking behavior because this could have an adverse effect. If a child never plays outdoors and is never allowed to experience risks such as leg injuries from rough play for example, he may have phobias as an adult.
Children need to fall several times to learn what is normal. Teens may need to break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend to appreciate the emotional maturity that lasting relationships require. If parents remove risk from children’s lives, we will likely experience high arrogance and low self-esteem in our growing children.
Not paying too much attention to them
Overprotecting children will prevent them from being successful in life because they will feel useless and have low self-esteem. But then there is the other side of the coin, the lack of attention that has the same negative effect on the development of children. The biggest regret of parents is spending too much time at work, although there are parents who also regret not playing with their children more or not being able to give them all the attention they would like. Ultimately, parents regret not offering quality time to their children.
A Boston Medical Center study found that parents with smartphones pay little or no attention to their children. Some parents are so busy building their successful careers and earning money that they totally neglect and ignore their children. They leave the care of their children to nannies… Most of the cases in the study speak of parents who find it difficult to raise their children properly.
Leaving children in the care of babysitting or domestic services in their most delicate stage (childhood) is a huge mistake that some parents make. Most of these children grow up without proper guidance and guidance and learn behaviors from their peers and immediate environment.
The bad news is that most of these learned behaviors from peers and the immediate environment are negative behaviors that upset children later in life. In the worst cases, children are sexually abused and threatened in silence without their parents’ knowledge.
Forget that your actions speak louder than your words
Some parents misbehave, but expect perfect behavior from their children. A parent who yells, curses, smokes, takes drugs, drinks, or becomes physically aggressive should not expect their child to act like a saint.
Teaching one thing and doing another tells a child that you are insincere. Also, it makes your child believe that the things you ask them to do are not important. By observing and imitating others, children learn ways to interact socially. They learn appropriate and inappropriate behaviors.
Examples set by adults, older siblings, and children are the most powerful influences that shape a child’s behavior and mannerisms. Children learn by copying what others do. If parents do not treat each other equally or with respect, the child will detect, learn, and almost certainly copy this behavior.
If adults display behavior harmful to children, children will also learn and copy this type of behavior. If adults treat others with respect, patience, and kindness, children will follow suit. If fathers and mothers treat each other with affection and respect, children will learn, copy and probably reproduce it in their relationships as adults.