No, you don’t have to be a “good girl” because life is not meant to be good all the time or in every circumstance you find yourself in. Boys and girls from the moment they come into the world, they are neither good nor bad. They are children, and that is wonderful. Since you came into the world, your magic when looking at me with those green eyes cannot be compared to anything. There is no one like you in the world, because we are all unique, different and irreplaceable.
never be who you’re not
You do not have to try to be who you are not, nor do you have to show a correct attitude because that is what society expects of you. You have to be yourself, do things as you come from the heart. No more. The good and the bad, behaving well or badly, I will teach you at home, but you don’t have to learn it outside of it.
When you go out into the world you will need to know that what matters is not being “a good girl”, what really matters in life is that you always act from the heart. Because people try to act in the circumstances of life in the best way we know or can at that time.
Live your emotions with intensity
You have the right to feel emotions with all their intensity, because all of them are valid and necessary, but once you feel them, you will have to know what they mean and be able to make sense of them and seek solutions if necessary to rediscover your emotional balance. I will teach you my daughter, I will be your guide so that when you take flight you will know how to do it yourself.
But, even if you know and learn to do it yourself, you should know that your father, me and your family will be by your side whenever you need it. When you need advice or feel at a crossroads, I’ll be there to guide you, or at least help you decide for yourself what works best.
You should know that I will not always be in this world, so my job while I live is to prepare you so that you know how to defend yourself and be a strong and autonomous woman. You will know how to manage your emotions, make decisions and learn from your mistakes whenever you need to. The word resilience will define you because that’s how you will be, wonderful in every way.
You have taught me to live my emotions
With these words I do not want you to feel that I am demanding something from you that you cannot do, nothing is further from reality. Because I will never demand what you are not capable of giving, I am satisfied that you are yourself always and above all, that you do not want to be a specific way to please others. Others must accept you as you are.
Thanks to you I have learned to live my emotions (all of them) and I have learned to manage them and never deny them. Because they are all valid and necessary. You just have to focus on yourself, understand what is happening to you and know how to manage it, because when this is achieved, empathy, resilience and assertiveness come on their own.
thanks for being you
Thank you my dear for being my mirror and I yours. Because thanks to you I have learned to really understand myself. We have grown as a family and as people, because despite being just a girl, you have given us great life lessons, perhaps without you realizing it.
You don’t have to be a good girl who loses control of her own life to give it to others. No my daughter, that is not what you should do. Do not want to please others, much less at the cost of your own suffering or accepting injustice. Never tolerate that. Never blindly obey the adult, question all their rules if necessary, because adults also make mistakes. And that’s fine. We’re all human.
Allow yourself to get angry, angry and even angry, but manage those intense emotions so that they don’t get out of control and end up controlling you. You don’t need to stop being a girl either… you have to stay that way for as long as it takes. Never let others clip your wings or undermine your imagination.
Do not allow the world to pressure you in such a way that you stop being yourself. As your mother, I release you from all that. I free you from rigidity, a rigidity that you must understand because the world is like that and you will have to adapt to it, but inside you must always be yourself. Never let others take control of your life. Your freedom will always be above everything else.