Setting limits for children through positive discipline begins with adult behavior. Good boundary setting, clear boundary communication, is a good start. Adults should include in their teaching the most appropriate behavior, giving cues for the new behavior, giving choices to children, and supporting the new and appropriate behavior.
Positive guidance and discipline also includes changing something about a situation, ignoring the behavior when it is appropriate to do so. Positive guidance and discipline goes a long way when adults administer discipline with positive strategies such as:
- Redirection with a positive attitude
- Active listening
- Conflict resolution
- Recognize and deal with strong emotions
- Recognize signs of stress or anxiety
- Avoid overstimulation
- Teach relaxation techniques
It is very important to help children preserve their dignity in discipline. Learn positive behavior while learning good behavior. Developing reasonable limits focuses on the most important things, indicating the effectiveness of limits, helping children accept limits, and communicating them to others. It is also essential to review them periodically, being flexible in different situations.
When limits are important
Limits are always important, but especially when it comes to safety for yourself and others , this is not negotiable. Treating others with respect is important and treating your own needs without attacking anyone else is too. Other rules can change over time and you will have to learn to deal with your own conflicts and needs to being able to be well with himself and with his environment.
Parents must create and establish necessary limits, leaving aside unnecessary ones. You just have to make sure that you have a good connection with your child so that you can set the limits with empathy and assertiveness, and if your child can feel this, the limits will not be a problem in the education of your children. .
Reasonable limits on things important
Adults influence what s children showing their expectations for desired behavior and helping youngsters to understand that there are limits to be met. It is necessary to understand the importance of appropriate boundaries in relationships between adults and children.
It is essential to advocate for positive communication in order to be able to clearly communicate the limits, which must make sense to the children and, in addition, they must feel that they are the ones who have control over the decision to take action of those limits established by adults -through the options-. Boundaries should be set on things that are important and not trivial, such as the physical and emotional health of children and adults, as well as safety. In this way, healthy self-control is encouraged, also taking into account their emotions, their feelings and how the child feels at all times.
Considerations of positive discipline to establish limits
- Positive discipline is based on mutual respect.
- The purpose of positive discipline is to help children organize, internalize rules and acquire appropriate behavior patterns taking into account their needs, concerns and interests.
- Children’s and parents’ temperaments, particularly in the context of the socio-cultural environment, require flexibility. Children with Special Educational Needs or developmental delays require additional adjustments and problem solving.
- Positive discipline does not instill shame, negative guilt, or a sense of abandonment or loss of confidence. Instead, it instills a sense of greater trust and strength between the child and their parents.
- Avoid confrontation whenever possible by offering suggestions and options (few and adjusted to the moment ) appropriate, as well as knowledge of the natural and agreed consequences of certain behaviors.