When parents learn that their child is a bully at school – or outside of it – they may feel guilty or think about what they did wrong, but these thoughts will not solve the problem. situation. It is necessary that the parents of a child who harasses another child realize the reality, do not try to deny or hide it and above all, that they make their child part of the solution and stop being part of the problem.
The good news is that kids really want to do the right thing They want to do things right. They can be confused about what is correct and what is the most effective way to meet their needs. If children do not receive any guidance, they may feel confused and therefore do what they think is best for them, without empathizing with others. Bullying behavior may or may not be learned… but they need a reference person to guide them.
If there is the presence of a loving father -or mother, of course- , attentive, kind… children will grow up seeing this model at home and they will be more likely to become empathetic and socially intelligent children, but how can this be achieved?
Make kindness a priority
It is not enough to tell children that kindness is important, you need to make sure that you and the other members of your family maintain a high level of relationship with the way you treat each other. We all have the right to be angry, to feel grumpy, to be stressed or tired, but it should never be spoken to others without respect. If someone ever gets angrier than necessary, yells or says things that are not appropriate will be when apologies should be used as soon as possible. If it happens to you, you will have to apologize and make your children realize how it is done, it is good that you admit that you can also be wrong sometimes .
Cheer him up to think about what other people need
Encouraging children to think about what other people need is very important because you will begin to work on empathy. To prevent children from becoming narcissistic, you need to teach them how to understand themselves, their own needs, others, and everything they may need. Sometimes this will cause them to conflict, but it is not a negative thing. They will learn to take care of their own needs, respecting the needs of others in a very important way. They need to learn this so that they can have relationships healthy, happy, and a strong sense of self.
Research shows that people who practice Gratitude is more likely to make people generous, compassionate, and more easily forgiving. Ask your kids each week for three things they are thankful for. Then let them know three other things that you are also grateful for and appreciate. The little things are just as important as the bigger things. Make gratitude a bedtime routine or pre-dinner ritual. Children like to hear these ideas, you can also tell them things for which you feel proud of them, listen to everything they want to tell you. Talk about what happens at school. It will make them feel good and they will not need to show any aggressiveness.
You need to work with your child empathy, approach, be affectionate with him, learn to apologize and assertiveness is part of your life as usual.