Perhaps, when it is already the fourth time that you get up in the same night, you think that the fatigue you will have the next day will be enormous. And it will be. But your baby needs you and requires your care. It is a defenseless being that needs its mother to be close, and we advise you to enjoy this stage, because although it feels eternal… in reality it passes much faster than you imagine.
You should keep in mind that your baby does not cry to make you sleepy, nor does he cry to manipulate you or make you very tired. If he cries in the middle of the night it’s because he needs you, nothing more than that.
Letter from your baby
As your baby cannot speak, we want tell you what your baby would want to tell you if he could talk every night. We are going to tell you about it in letter mode, because that is how you should feel it: close.
Last night I woke up again every hour because I needed to feel you close. I was afraid in the middle of the dark that you weren’t there, I was terrified to feel that you were far from me, with everything I need you! I don’t want to apologize for something that isn’t my fault, but I do want you to feel my apologies since it’s not something I did with malicious intent.
I know that you are tired, that you need to sleep… but I am a dependent being and this world is new to me. I don’t know anything about him and I need you to be my guide all the time, to watch over me and protect me.
I need to feel you skin to skin to be sure, it is a need that I have, just as important as changing my diaper or feeding me. I still don’t understand that my home is my refuge, because right now, my home is you and my refuge is your arms. The only way to make you see that I’m not okay or that I’m scared is by crying.
Maybe you’ve been told at some point that I should be more independent or that it’s better if you let me cry in my crib… that it’s good for me. Don’t believe him mom, because they don’t know what they say. I’m not ready for you to leave me alone, nor do I have to cry for my lungs to get bigger. When I cry a lot I feel alone and I am absolutely terrified of losing you, I feel abandoned and my stress hormones go off… I really have a hard time.
The most important thing for me and so that I can grow strong and healthy, is that you are by my side. That you attend me whenever I need it no matter what time it is. That if you are tired or need a bath, there is someone to protect me and take care of me but always close to you… to return to your arms as soon as you have recharged your batteries.
I don’t know how to calm down by myself, I need your human warmth to calm me down and know that everything is fine. The only sound in the world that comforts me and fills me with emotional comfort is your voice. Your voice, for me… is heavenly music.
Last but not least, I want to thank you. Thank you for having carried me in your womb for nine months, for having brought me into the world in the midst of great pain, and because now, despite your tiredness… you continue to take care of me. There is no money in the world that can pay a mother. Thanks to you I will grow up and become a healthy and strong person.
Right now it may seem like something far away, but this will pass… And you will miss me so little and always needing you. I love you mom, I loved you before I was born and I will love you for the rest of my life more than anyone in this world.