It is a great truth that all parents in the world want their children to be happy… but they are not always. It is important for parents to be aware that happiness is a path and not a goal. Only in this way will they be able to enjoy life, the small details… and teach it to their children.
Seeing a happy child fills your soul with positive emotions. His smile, his gestures, the way he behaves shows that this child is happy… and parents enjoy feeling that good energy that their little one transmits. But there are times when children are not happy and there are also signs that show it.
Identify if your child is not happy
To identify if your child is not happy, the first thing you should do is observe him. Observe if he has certain behaviors that would be indicating to you that something is not going well, that your little one is really not being happy but he does not know how to say it in any other way than through his behavior.
It is important to know that young children show their emotions through their actions because they feel a lot but do not know what it means. It is adults who must identify these emotions and teach children not only what they mean, but also to understand them to know what each of them says and why they arise. Meraki: a word that your children must learn. Only in this way will the little one be able to identify them over time and have better emotional management.
On many occasions, it will be the instinct of a mother or the great observation of a father that can sound the alarm when they see that their child is not happy. It will be necessary to take measures so that the little one understands those emotions that flood him and change them for others that make him feel better in all aspects.
Signs that your child is not happy
Next we are going to tell you about some of the signs or behaviors that your child may present and that will be clearly telling you that your child is not happy and that his behavior is only a way of asking you for help in the face of his internal suffering. These signs can not only appear in young children, but also in older children…. Do not lose detail:
- Smiles little or does not feel like laughing
- Does not want to play with other children
- Play alone or don’t play
- Is often irritable or frustrated (and in good physical health)
- Suddenly changes behavior (for example, suddenly becomes secretive or aggressive when it wasn’t before)
- Have mood swings for no apparent reason and suddenly
- Has explosive emotional responses
- You often get sick (or have frequent symptoms like stomach aches, vomiting, general malaise, etc. without knowing why)
- lose the desire to eat
- usually have nightmares
- It seems that he has an evolutionary delay because he used to control his sphincters and suddenly he starts leaking.
- He doesn’t want to go to school
- Does not have or does not want friends
- When he plays he does it with violence
- Often complains about anything
- isolates himself from others
- He is not interested in family life
These are some warning signs but there may be others and it is important to observe the little one for changes in behavior and/or if he does things that he did not do before.Signs that show you that your baby loves you. It is worth remembering that these signs must have continuity over time, because children, just like adults, can have good days and not so good days. In this sense, you may see your child one day a little more sad or down, but this does not mean that he is not happy the rest of the day.
What can never be lacking in a family is communication between all its members, and most importantly: active listening . Parents have an obligation to make their children always feel understood and cared for, this will motivate them to find solutions to their problems as they grow up.
On the other hand, if they do not feel heard or understood, they will begin to withdraw into themselves, they will have a personality that seems introverted, when in reality they are only isolating themselves from everyone and could even trigger depression in the future .
Also, so that your children are happy and understand that happiness comes from within them and not from the outside in, it is important to offer them all our love. But love is not enough, they also need: support, understanding, physical and emotional security, play freely, limits and rules with flexibility, teach them to express their feelings freely and without judging them, not mock or criticize them and always teach them from the I respect.