In recent years the Montessori system has gained ground in the family environment, more and more parents are betting on this method to educate their children. However, although the principles seem easy to apply since they are basically based on the freedom of children to learn and develop on their own, in practice it is not so simple. To implement the Montessori method, it is necessary to take into account many details that go beyond order, design and access to tools, which can cause many parents to make mistakes when applying it.
How not to apply the Montessori method?
1 . Not knowing the Montessori method well
Many parents decide to apply the Montessori method without understanding its fundamentals or, even worse, without knowing its basic principles. Although it is true that it is not necessary to be an expert in the Montessori method to apply it at home, it is at least necessary to know its basic principles, so that fewer mistakes are made and better results are obtained. Therefore, ideally, you should spend a few weeks studying the method well and understanding its principles and foundations, before starting to apply it.
2. Having expectations that are too high
One of the most common mistakes parents make when applying the Montessori method is thinking that it will take effect in a matter of weeks or a few months. However, in reality this educational system, like the rest, requires time and systematicity before the first achievements can be noticed. Having patience, being constant and not violating the child’s learning rhythm is vital. It is also convenient not to develop too high expectations in terms of results since with this method your little one will not develop super powers, he will only learn to make the most of his potential. So make sure you don’t ask for more than he can give.
3. Giving too much importance to the material
When implementing the Montessori method at home, some parents make the mistake of focusing too much on logistics: they find all the necessary materials and design a Montessori corner worth admiring. However, although the materials are a fundamental part of stimulating the child’s learning and senses, it is also necessary to pay attention to other details, such as their routines and learn to respect their independence and space. The method Montessori is a full-time education that is not restricted exclusively to the space created and the materials: it is an educational style, not a use-and-leave tool.
4. Not leading by example
Sometimes parents focus too much on stimulating the child’s independence and offering what she needs for her development, but they forget something essential: teaching by example. In the Montessori method, parents have a guiding role, they become the main guides of the child, the people responsible for stimulating him to discover the environment and its potential. Therefore, it is essential that the child also sees that their parents are people open to new experiences and that they respect the space of others. Remember that everything you want to see in your child, you must first develop in you.
5. Use materials without educational value
In the Montessori method, the environment and the materials are important for learning. In fact, one of its greatest advantages is that practically any object can become an educational tool or medium. However, you must be very careful since, although toys can be very useful to stimulate certain skills , actually have a playful function and only some can be used for educational purposes. Therefore, when choosing Montessori material you should consider that it is easy to handle and sensitive, but also instructive and didactic.