At some point in parenting, parents have to put up with disrespectful behavior from their children. Whether it’s for something as minor as ignoring orders or as annoying as a series of curses and insults. Your child will sometimes express himself in an unproductive way. When this happens, first of all you need to understand that it happens often and that your child’s behavior is not your fault. Also, you have to know how to fix it since disrespectful behavior can usually be fixed.
While challenge is unpleasant, it’s usually not a cause for alarm: your child is probably just trying to overcome feelings of frustration and helplessness. As children get older, they often feel overwhelmed by rules and expectations. They want more autonomy but are not sure how to get it; as such, they act to assert control over the situation.
If your child doesn’t want to do their homework, for example, you could try having a conversation. If you are successful and he wants to talk to you, he will get his way (even if temporarily). In conversation you’ll be so busy talking about their attitude that homework will become an afterthought.
However, while it’s important to recognize and facilitate your son, you should never tolerate or encourage hurtful and rude behavior. The key to handling a disrespectful child lies in allowing him a healthy measure of autonomy while curbing inappropriate methods of self-expression. With the tips below, you can help your child stop disrespectful behavior.
Don’t take it “to heart”
The more The more your child’s words and actions are internalized, the more likely he is to overreact. This escalates the situation and motivates your child to continue behaving disrespectfully. After all,by showing your child that he can have your attention, you’re showing him that his techniques are effective.
Instead, most experts recommend that you let unimportant things (such as sighs or complaints at your demands) do not bother you at all. In addition, you need to objectively analyze which of your child’s disrespectful behaviors are actually harmful. You need to focus on correcting these behaviors through the use of calm and consistent discipline.
Model respectful behavior
If you want your child to have respectful behavior, it is obvious that you will have to be a good example of it. Where do children get the idea that acting disrespectfully solves problems? Often when observing someone they respect, they use similar methods to deal with their upset.
So one of the best ways to curb disrespectful behavior is is to demonstrate healthy anger management strategies. Avoid speaking ill of others behind their backs and always be courteous in front of your children, even when dealing with a difficult person.
Do not allow your child to be disrespectful
Although no parent intends to encourage their child to be disrespectful, some unintentionally tolerate this behavior, until it is directed in their direction. Think, for example, of the following situation: One of his teachers is giving your child a really heavy amount of homework.You naturally sympathize with the situation by telling your child that it might be too much homework. He has given you to do at home.
So when he starts complaining about how unfair his teacher is, calling him names or throwing a tantrum, you express that you agree with your son (at least in part). What message do you think your child will receive if you do this? He will understand that it is acceptable and even helpful to treat someone with disrespect when you disagree with him or her.
A better way to handle these types of situations is As a first step, empathize with your child. Validate his feelings, for example, by saying: “I understand that you’re feeling tired and frustrated right now; It’s okay.” Once you’ve done this, remind him that while his feelings are okay, being rude and disrespectful is not. Come up with respectful ways for you and your child to handle the situation, such as having a friendly conversation with the teacher about her homework policies.